Question #3
If you have a choice, which man would you choose–(a) the ex that’s clearly in love with you, but reminds you deeply of your less-than-perfect past, (b) the rich guy whose only way to stay out of your pants is to convince himself that you’re beneath him…but then trusts you when it counts, or (c) the strong, silent type with secrets that include his last name?
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August 18th, 2006 at 8:45 am
You’d think this would be an easy question! But if you think about it, some women will do anything to escape their past, including giving up a man who loves them. Its hard to cut those ties, though.
Personally, I lean towards a.
There is something to be said about a person who loves you even when they know your deepest, darkest secrets. And would you ever really feel comfortable with a person you were afraid would discover less than reputable things about you? I want a person who loves me in spite of myself!
August 18th, 2006 at 10:54 am
i say a
August 18th, 2006 at 7:32 pm
I also choose A…and if that doesn’t work out I would move on to C..LOL!
Someone who loves you still for your past and present self is a keeper in my books!
As for mister B, I like stick w/ the saying “I want a man that stands beside me, not in front of or behind me.” If I am not treated as an equal than I am moving on.
And as for mister C, I would get those secrets out of him one way or another…but again, C does not enter the picture unless something horrible happens to Mister A and a replacement Mister A can not be found
August 19th, 2006 at 9:49 am
I guess I would have to pick A. He reallyloves me so that he reminds me of my past is maybe my problem not his and I should try to work it out.
August 19th, 2006 at 8:34 pm
I love these answers!
August 20th, 2006 at 5:35 am
I would pick A because if this guy knows the worst about you and still loves you then you want to hold on to him. Also, you have to get over yourself. The I am haunted by my past thing is ridiculous when so many people are impressed by a person making a comeback from bad choices.
August 20th, 2006 at 1:51 pm
(c) the strong, silent type with secrets that include his last name. I like the strong, silent type. lol
August 21st, 2006 at 10:19 am
Ok, here’s the thing,
Mister B if you can’t see me as an equal than your not going to see me! It’s that easy.
Mister A is the person who know you the best. But, does that make you comfortable? Like i already know i love him but are you still in love with him? that’s a difficult question.
Mister C: COME TO MAMA!!! I’ll get to those secerts!
August 21st, 2006 at 11:34 am
So…if this is talking about me personally then probably B. Not so much because of the rich part but if he is having that much trouble staying out of my pants then that could fun and a challenge providing that I was in love with him.
If you were talking about fiction then B or C. Really hard to choose because I can think of so many ways that each of them would make for a great Hero when all was said and done.
August 21st, 2006 at 1:34 pm
I would say A. A guy who knows your past and loves you for you is a keeper.
August 21st, 2006 at 1:47 pm
I’m not sure, it’s between A and C. For some reason I think you should leave the past in the past, but if he’s really the one - then how can you leave him in the past. I love a mystery man so C sounds great too. B just doesn’t do it for me - I mean I know in the books he is hot and there is attraction so I guess he’s okay - but for me no way.
August 21st, 2006 at 8:27 pm
Toss up between B & C. Definitely not A, unless there was a huge break up time in between and each person has changed significantly, and even then I’d have reservations. There’s a reason an ex is an ex. I’m a firm believer in not repeating history, but learning from it. I’ve seen very few renewed relationships ever work out.
August 21st, 2006 at 8:43 pm
That is a good point Kelly R…I would need to know what happened between me and the ex to make him an ex! Of course he was the one that did something wrong..LOL…BUT he better have been crying and having a horrible life without me…AND no one (in particular another female, well lets be honest, especially not another female) should have been comforting him. And I would need to know that he has been spending every minute w/o me trying to figure out a way to fix whatever he did wrong and get me back!!! Hopefully, LOTS flowers and chocolate covered carmals are part of the begging forgiveness part
August 21st, 2006 at 10:07 pm
I agree with some of the ladies here - A - he loves me warts, past and all.
August 22nd, 2006 at 4:25 pm
It all depends on what I’m choosing him for. LOL. If I want to settle down with him, or if I’m at a time in my own life that I don’t want something super serious, or even half serious.
However, I do think that no matter what time in my life, I don’t think I’d ever choose a man who looked down on me. No matter what.
From whati read of Marisela in DLS I don’t think she would either. Self respectis hard won, and not worth lowering for a man who can’t be honest with himself.
August 22nd, 2006 at 5:18 pm
Preach it sista-Sasha, I’ll turn the pages! Can I get an “Amen!” on the self-respect?
You want the (a) to settle down with…pass on the (b)…and the (c) to have a little fun with!!
Kelly R, I have to agree with your point on (a) if the breakup was over incompatibility or because he was jerk, or the usual gamut of reason couples move on. But if (a) is an ex because he was too much of a blast from a past you are trying to forget, not because he did anything wrong, I’d still go for him!
August 22nd, 2006 at 6:10 pm
definitely C
August 22nd, 2006 at 6:15 pm
I would say A.
B I would take him for all his money lol and then move on to C lol
August 23rd, 2006 at 12:35 pm
You want the (a) to settle down with…pass on the (b)…and the (c) to have a little fun with!!
You got it perfect ,Angie!
Although Cherylann has a point with this.
B I would take him for all his money lol and then move on to C lol
Mwahahahah.
August 24th, 2006 at 8:47 pm
Here is an “Amen” Angie T….LOL
However, consider ladies, that a man who can’t even tell you his last name very well might be “forgetting” to mention other ladies that he is involved with!!
I’ll still take A and then B&C can have each other..LOL
August 24th, 2006 at 8:48 pm
B and C can have each other b/c they deserve each other
August 25th, 2006 at 4:19 am
A without a doubt, I married A who loved me in spite of myself and God knows I tried to stay “broke up”! He knew EVERYTHING about me and loved me anyway,I had met the other type and had my chance, but A will let you be all you can be and stand beside all the way.
My A and I have been married 48 years and great sex is important, B and C wouldn’t last because you can’t have secrets and can’t be belittled so A has it.
August 25th, 2006 at 7:30 pm
I say A…life’s a little easier when someone loves you.
B…that’s funny…maybe just for a week. lol
August 25th, 2006 at 8:06 pm
I’m enjoying all these choices because yes, they correspond with the men Marisela has in her life. A is Frankie, B is Ian and C is, of course, the mysterious Max. In DIRTY LITTLE LIES, all of these relationships undergo a change (well, not so much Max, he’s still sexy and mysterious and watches Marisela’s back), but Ian and Frankie’s way of operating with Marisela changes. I wanted to mix things up…you know, keep things hopping. Can’t let things get too easy for my girl! Of course, if I ever get to write the third book (just finished the proposal!) things get even more intense. I’m really loving this series!
August 27th, 2006 at 12:52 am
A - the ex that’s clearly in love with you…
if he was the bad guy and had reformed, maybe…
if he was an ex as in boyfriends maybe….
my ex in real life, forget it.
August 27th, 2006 at 8:20 am
I would have to choose A. I dont want someone who has lied to me about his last name - because obviously he is hiding something. certainly dont want to pretend I am beneath someone. So that leaves A and he really loves me no matter what.
August 29th, 2006 at 5:39 am
Boy I’m having trouble with all of the choices. For me TRUST is #1 in any relationship.
A He’s an ex…I might let him be a friend but I would never get together with him again.
B Money is not a big thing for me, he’s in denial about the relationship …if he wakes up and treats me as an equal, his believing in me in a crisis is a big keeper sign for me… I’d try a relationship with him.
C I’m all for honesty …so I’d be a bit leery of going out with someone who’s not telling me the whole story.
August 29th, 2006 at 9:24 pm
I think B would have to be smacked in the head first, to cause memory loss, for it to work out..LOL LOL